Why does love feel so hard?

Attachment-Focused Counseling in New York

Relationship therapy for individuals navigating
attachment patterns, identity, sexuality, or connection

Whether you're stuck in anxious dating loops, healing from a breakup, navigating family pressure, or unpacking patterns that stem from childhood, we’re here to help you get to the root. Our therapists specialize in helping individuals work through anxiety, intimacy wounds, identity confusion, and relationship patterns rooted in early attachment and trauma.

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You don’t have to figure this out alone

We know how exhausting it is to feel like you're the one who has to hold it all together, especially when love feels out of reach, confusing, or unsafe.

At Our Kind, therapy isn’t just a service. It’s a relationship.

You’ll be met by a real human who sees through your defenses with care, who honors both your pain and your strength. Someone who listens not just to what you say—but to what your heart has been trying to say all along.

We cry with our clients. We celebrate with them.
We sit with you in the mess, until the clarity comes.

You don’t have to wait for a rock bottom to get support.
You can start now, and you’ll be met where you are with zero shame.

Find Your Therapist

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We Support You Through:

Dating anxiety, codependency, and anxious/avoidant patterns
Healing after divorce, breakup, or emotional betrayal
Exploring culture, gender, and family roles in relationships
Feeling behind or unseen in love
Building emotional safety and intimacy from the inside out

Find your Therapist

At Our Kind, we offer counselling for relationship problems with relationship counselors who understand culture, trauma, and the nervous system. You’ll be matched with a relationship therapist near you who specializes in attachment-based therapy and will create a personalized path forward.

Looking for? Relationship therapist near me because you’re tired of the same dating patternsLove therapy after a breakup, divorce, or affairMarriage therapist, even though you’re not sure your partner will comeRelationship counselor who can help you explore arranged marriage pressures, codependency, anxious/avoidant patterns, or why intimacy feels so far away

Our relationship therapists specialize in relationship therapy for individuals. Because we know the most transformative love stories start from within. Our therapists are trained in attachment-based, experiential therapy, including AEDP, ISTDP, Narrative Therapy, and Somatic work, to help you explore how your past relationships (including family) have shaped you and how to build healthier, more fulfilling relationships moving forward.